We’ve survived Christmas and New Year, now the next big social event and possibly the most difficult to get through, Valentine’s Day.
If, like me, you find yourself facing the prospect of Valentine’s Day on your own for the first time in a while, try these helpful tips on how to make it a “Special Day” for yourself.
So why do anything at all?
Shops, restaurants, bars, pubs, etc. are pushing Valentine’s Day events and promotions in your face at every opportunity. They are a constant reminder and as such, will more than likely trigger memories from the past. It does for me. Planning something for your self will undoubtedly give you another focus and detract from the prospect of sitting around and dwelling on what might have been or reminiscing what you did with your ex last year!
Love yourself, if you can’t no one else can – so the saying goes. Be happy being you and enjoy the fact that you can do what you want, when you want and how you want. Valentine’s Day Is for Lovers so if you love yourself for who you are and what you are – this day is for you too.
Feb 14th will see UK lovers spending upwards of £1.4 billion on flowers chocolates restaurant bills as well as the cards, cuddly toys, balloons etc. On average, couples will spend around £80.00 on each other. So why not take some of what you would have spent and make it a day to remember.
Here are some suggestions
- Start the day of with a bit of excitement. Buy two or three Valentine’s cards, nothing expensive, and send them to three people you will have contact with on the day. They could be your friends, some one you have a soft spot for or just some one who deserves to have their day brightened up. You will get two things from doing this. One, listening to someone you sent a card to trying to work out who it’s from – it can be hilarious and secondly you will probably feel good especially if you have sent one to someone to cheer them up or some one you secretly fancy.
- If you fancy going out, call some of your single friends who are feeling the same as you and get them to join in. Try to select a venue or a theme not associated with Valentine’s Day. Ten Pin bowling, Go Carting, Paintballing, Sphering, a Casino or even better see if there is a Speed Dating Party or Singles Party local to you. Anywhere where you’re not faced with couples staring into each others eyes.
- What about staying in? Get the girls round for a girly night in, maybe an Anne Summers party or a takeaway with a few bottles of wine and a damn good comedy film, just avoid the Rom-Coms, you don’t want a house full of girls crying because they haven’t got the leading man in their lives. What about the lads? Again same idea, get your mates round, few cans and some food. Gaming night on the PS 3 or X-Box, CoD is always a favourite or even a poker night. You might have problems holding an Anne Summers party though guys!
- Cook for your friends. Why not be clever and be a match maker. Invite say half a dozen single guys and girls round, you never know what might happen. Just make sure the ones you invite are likely to get on with most of the others. Make it a themed night, fancy dress, masked ball. Anything that takes the edge off it being a serious night.
- If you would rather be on your own, that’s also a good idea – but treat yourself. Indulge in what you fancy; after all it’s your night. Indian, Chinese, KFC, Burger King, something from the salad bar or a prime home cooked steak. Go and get yourself that new book you have wanted to read or the DVD you want to watch.
- Now here’s a really nice idea. Why not do something for somebody else. If you know an elderly couple, why not help re-create a magical night. See if they will let you cook for them, get the candles out help them celebrate the day in style.
- Thinking of a holiday this year? Get yourself down to the travel agents and pick up some brochures. Settle down with your favourite snacks and maybe a drop of alcohol and book yourself a getaway.
- Why not book yourself in for a day of beauty treatment. Have your self pampered for a while. For the men maybe a one on one personal fitness training session at the gym. How about an Indian Head Massage, extremely good for relaxation.
- Retail therapy is always a great way to make you feel good. Go and buy yourself a new outfit, not only will you feel good, you’ll look stunning too.
- Just do whatever makes you feel good. It’s a day you can thoroughly enjoy, after all, you in your own right are “Someone Special”, and you’re just waiting to be found.
I hope you all have a really great day – I know I will. If you have any more suggestions or ideas feel free to leave a comment.